As researchers have long observed, one cannot not communicate. This is especially true for couples. Although the most common complaint we hear is "We don't communicate" or "My partner won't communicate with me." There is no such thing as lack of communication in a relationship. The amused smile,a silent, pouting mouth, a shrug - each of these seemingly noncommunicative acts send a message.
Sending and receiving both verbal and non-verbal messages is the essence of communication. When we relate to others, how we see ourselves affects our communication style. People develop their self-images through relationships, through being "mirrored" by others. Moreover, each of us wants to be understood by the person we love. Such a task is easy, when that man or woman is "in sync" with us. Communication is effortless, and we, in turn, are generous with our compassion. When partners have difficulty relating to each other, too often, they give up out of frustration rather than commit themselves to bridging the gap.
The best way to describe the root of these difficulties is to visualize people as being "wired" differently, as having different ways of conceptualizing, processing what they are receiving from the world, communicating their thoughts and feelings and relating to the "self" and others. It is important that we understand how people communicate and how communication differences between a man and woman may lead to conflict.
One of the more interesting issues in communication which has received considerable attention is the issue of gender differences in communication. It is common knowledge that the two genders, male and female, engage in communication in slightly different ways. There is evidence that gender differences in communication behavior reflect the unequal status and power of men and women within societies The corresponding results are comparable to generally found differences between...