What seems to be the common factor that conjoins Lysistrata, In the Lake of the Woods, and The Things They Carried consist of two main ideas. The first is the men's unwillingness to give up the war that has engulfed their whole being. The second is the draw to their home life with a special love that constantly fills their minds keeping them going.
In each of the three books it is hard for the men to give up the war. Lysistrata shows to what extremes the women have to go to as she explains her plan to Kleonike to end the war and keep their men home, Lysistrata states, "I see our way to salvation in just such ornamentation, in slippers and lips, rouge and perfumes, negligees and dÃÂ©colletage." She also states, "So effectively that not one husband will take up his spear against another...or shoulder his shield...or
unsheathe his sword (Lysistrata, pg. 19)." These statements show to what lengths the women have to go to change the attitude of the men towards war. In The Things They Carried the soldiers were like family sticking by each other at all times. the book "In the Lake of the Woods" John Wade and his whole platoon make a pack to not to speak of the My Lai massacre.
The women in Lysistrata share a kind of bond with the soldiers in The Things They Carried, and John Wade in, In the Lake of the Woods. This bond is a lust for their loved ones. In Lysistrata the women long for their men who battle for a long period of time then come home for a day or two and are off again. This shown through the quote by Lysistrata, "Don't you think they miss you...