"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I intended to be" - Douglas Adams
Life is funny sometimes, in the way things work out. Robbie Williams sings "I talk to G-d, but he just laughs at my plans" and I think this is true. Certainly in my case my carefully planned life seems to have taken on a mind of its own. Where I planned to be and where I find myself are two different places. It is not necessarily worse or better, just different.
It all started with a marriage breakup. I was 36 at the time and my marriage simply fell apart. While it is true that my wife and I had been fighting for some time, I never saw it coming. The world around me was falling apart. My carefully planned map of life as I saw it was starting to change and it seemed as if I had no control over it at all! Looking back I would have to admit that most of it was because I was changing.
I felt lost and adrift, with little focus and no real meaning in my life. I had lost a lot of my friends, I was having problems at work, my kids seemed to have locked me out of their lives. I had to escape. I decided to "re-find myself" as a person and went backpacking through Africa, alone.
A month into my trip and I was realizing that I had made a mistake.
It was lousy.
I had communication problems, the rain was never ending and simply put, Africa was not a nice place. Thinking of cutting my trip short, I traveled to Angola to catch a connecting flight back to Sydney. It...