REAL LIFE REPORT # 1 My observation for the first week of school was very interesting when you really sit back and pay attention to the action of people when they interact for the first time. After reading the strategies on page 258 for initiating relationships, I have notice all the strategies in the first week of school because every one is meeting new people and these are the types of strategies are used to break the ice when meeting new people. The four strategies are networking, offering, approaching, and sustaining. Networking-getting information about the other person from a third party who helps the first moments of contact go well. Another strategy is offering-putting your self in a favorable position to be approached by the desired partner. The third technique is approaching-sustaining your desire for contact, either verbally or nonverbally. And the final initiating strategy is sustaining-behaving in ways to keep the conversation going.
To give you an example of a scenario in which all of the strategies are use can be as simple as meeting a person at the club. Say a guy walk in a club, I sees a women that he find attractive. He walks past her and make I contact with here and she smile and he smile back. That is the first step in the process called approaching. The next step is offering in which he can accomplish this by walking up to her while she is ordering a drink making it easy for him to talk to her. Then he can ask a simple question like how you doing? What is you name? Next he could offer to pay for her drink hoping she thinks he kind. This classified as a behavior to keep the conversation going called sustaining. Then he can ask someone who knows her and ask them how she is like, if she is crazy or what ever he are want to know about her, this is called networking.
I noticed people acted differently because of gender, age, and culture. For instants, take gender. Most guys' address guy differently then girl or the other way around. Guy usually initiated the interaction and act nicer and are more polite towards women and act stupid, like try to act like a bad ass or try to be cool and hip to guy. Also guys usually slap hands when they see their guy friends and huge their girl friends when they see them. Age also play a role, most people or at least I try to have more respect and talk proper at them. I would assume that older people initiate the conversation because they are usually not shy and have better communication skills. Also when introducing your self to an older person people usually shake their hand rather then slapping their hand. In culture, the way people say hi are usually different, like in the Arabic culture, they usually kiss on the cheek three times back and forth.
I observed that guys usually initiate the conversation and mutual to the same sex. I also observed that the people usually were associated with people of the same age. The norm how student talked in the classroom was usually saying hi and asking their name. Also it is a rule not to speak when the teacher is talking. In the dorms I recall people were very friendly and outgoing, I felt it was a good atmosphere because all the people were in the same shoes. In the library (which I am there 247) people were quiet and keep to them selves.