Domestic violence, as of today, is still a big problem in the United States, there is no such thing as a real solution, but it is cause in different ways and it also effect many people.
Some of the causes to domestic violence are family origin, inner psychological makeup and symbolic world, community of peers, and patriarchal society. Statistics show? that 85% of convicted batterers grew up in households where they witnessed their mother being abused by a male partner? (Women?s). Children are being affected by the thing that?s been going around the house. If a kid saw his dad beating his mom, when he grows up, he might come to the conclusion that women are inferior to men because if not, then how come his mom?s letting his dad do what he did to her. Today, many people see ?child abuse and domestic violence are very much linked,? they are right (Women?s).
Young men are not only learning to be abusive, they may also be abused at home.
Batterers often feel as if ?different people in their lives, and society has wronged them? (Women?s). They tend to blame others for their problems and manipulate not only he people in their intimate relationships but also to friends, colleagues, and others that they come in contact with. However, batterer mostly blames it on their wives because they are always in the hose together and since they?re spending their life together, the batterer might feel like it?s her responsibility to make his life great. ?Batterers [usually] make the rules and define the roles in their relationships? (Women?s).
Many of us who witness domestic violence or know someone who is being abused do not know how to respond, so we turn away from it as if nothing unusual is going on.
Some kind of psychological effects of domestic violence are depression, low self-esteem, loss of trust, anxiety, and denial. Depression is the most common psychological effects of domestic violence. Research has shown that ?maltreatment that begins during childhood and continues into adolescence may be related to greater depression during the teen years than maltreatment that stated during adolescence? (Powers, 22). Low Self esteem is often associated with depression. Some people tend to see themselves as ?responsible for everything bad that happens to them? (Powers, 22). They might also blame other people around them for what happen, that can also cause domestic violence later in life. For some of the kids who did experience domestic violence, after, they lose trusts of most of the people around them. Some people tend to see themselves as ?responsible for everything bad that happens to them? (Powers, 22). They might also blame other people around them for what happen, that can also cause domestic violence later in life. Many maltreated teenagers are terrified of the mysterious underworld of their feelings. They do not ?labels their internal reactions and often experience all their feelings as a generalized state of anger and anxiety? (Powers, 22). Denial is also one of the psychological effects of domestic violence. For some young people, their ?maltreatment history has been buried under layers of denial? (Powers, 23). Denial is a natural response to painful experiences.
There are also behavioral effects which includes, sexual acting out, aggression, control, victim mentality, suicide, and survival guilt. Sexual acting out is most common for sexual abuse victims. This can include ?re-victimizing younger children, making poor choices of romantic partners, sexual instability, pregnancy, prostitution, or problems with sexual identity? (Powers, 25). People who were involved in domestic violence may have also be ?engage in aggressive and destructive behaviors? (Powers, 26). Women who are being battered may hose to keep their feelings inside and when the time comes, they just burst. Whoever?s with them is going to get it even though it?s not their fault.
"Children are the secondary victims of domestic violence," says Joan Suflita, director of children?s services at the Emergency Shelter Program/A Special Place in Hayward (If Mom?s?). "It is quite clear that while the violence may not be directed at them, they are greatly affected by it." Children don?t like their parents fighting; they also don?t like to be left out on things. Whenever there?s an argument going on in the house, the child might shows signs of needing attention. This shows that the child doesn?t get the attention that they need and there was no one there to tell them what?s wrong and what?s right. Children might also ?attempt to intervene in violent incident and become physically injured? because they don?t feel like anyone cares if they get hurt. That?s their way of getting attentions from their parents. They might also be doing that because they feel like they?re responsible for what?s going on.
The rate of child abuse is from six to fifteen times higher in families where the mother is abused compared to families where the mother is not abused. (A Safe Place).
Many possible solutions for domestic violence include the continuation and encouragement of existing programs. The international community must continue to be educated on the rights and status of women. Women, along with the rest of society, must be taught that domestic violence is wrong. Women should also know what choices they have when they are abused. Education can be implemented through such means as media, radio, billboards, flyers, pictorial pamphlets, and much more. Shelters and rehabilitation centers could be established to assist women who are being abused, and those who have. Domestic violence hotlines should continue to be established, that would provide counseling and someone to talk to.