Empty Nest Syndrom: Why having having children early in life may be detrimental to your marriage.

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The empty nest syndrome refers to the time in family life after the children have grown up and moved onto college, work, marriage, or their own independent lives. For parents, this can be a time of strong feelings. Some experience joy, fulfillment, and relief. Others feel loneliness and anxiety, or a combination of both good and bad feelings. For some parents, this is marked by the pain of loss and the anxiety of letting go. They may find themselves asking questions like "What is my purpose in life?", "My work is done, so who needs me?", or they may feel bitter and say "Look what all my hard work has gotten me now." In each phase of life there are tasks to be accomplished. When children leave home, it is the parents' job to make the transition from a full nest to an empty nest. Those who do not, live in the past.

While those who do, look toward the future. Choosing to have children early in life despite psychological research may seem irrational. A study done by Bridget Hiedemann, Olga Suhomlinova, and Angela M. O'Rond can be used to support the benefits of having children later in life and to show that having children early in life may be detrimental to your marriage.

A study done by Bridget Hiedemann et al is evidence that having children later in one's life is beneficial to a couple's marriage. The study began with a sample of 2,484 women. The criteria for being selected for the study included that the women are in their first marriage, they must be a mother, and their youngest child had to be born during the marriage or the year following the marriage. Three hypotheses were tested on the causes and timing of marital disruption during midlife. We...