To Have or Not to Have. 3 pages (not including title page, bibliography, or outline). Would you rather grow up with a gay father or no father at all? Explores the effects on a child growing up with a gay father.

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To Have or Not to Have


I would rather grow up having a father present in my life than no father at all. Having a gay father isn't necessarily a good thing or a bad thing. Gay fathers have more to prove to their children. Absent fathers have very harmful effects on their child's wellbeing.

To Have or Not to Have

I can't imagine how different my life would be if I didn't have a father. Compared to their heterosexual counterparts, gay fathers are not markedly different when it comes to parenting styles. In fact, gay fathers seem to be much more open minded and nurturing to their children. Gay fathers also seem to care more and want to be more involved in their child's life. Children with gay fathers can potentially have more open and clearer relationships with others, especially with members of other minority groups.

A child's gay father can possibly be harmful or helpful for their father-child relationship.

Gay fathers experience a lot of pressures from society alone, so they may not admit their sexuality to their children in fear of tarnishing the relationship they have with their child. Barret & Robinson (2008) state: "Coming out to children is usually an emotion-laden event for gay fathers" (p. 456). A gay father's worst fear would be losing the relationship they have with their child. Gay fathers want to prove their love for their children and show society that they can be just as good, if not better than heterosexual fathers. Gay fathers don't want their homosexuality to hinder the relationship they have with their children. Rivers (2010) states: "When lesbian mothers and gay fathers came out in the process of a divorce from heterosexual spouses, they often faced the immediate danger of losing custody of and even...