Love and Rejection: Breaking Up
Some felt they were a modern day Romeo and Juliet. The reality,
however, is that they were a heartbreaking example of what can go wrong with
Christian Dalvia, 14 and Maryling Flores, 13 were sweethearts who
were forbidden by Flores' mother to see each other. In early November, 1995,
the young couple met one last time. Standing at the edge of a Florida canal,
they joined hands and jumped 15 feet into the cold, murky water to their
Their deaths may sound romantic, even heroic to other teenagers when,
in actuality, it's just plain stupid. There were probably many other reasons for
their deaths, but ultimately, the thought of not being together tortured to the
point of wanting to take their own lives. This is a very extreme example of
what can go wrong with teenage heartbreak. One minute they're inseperable -
sharing their most intimate thoughts and details - the next minute they are
faces across a crowded room or polite acquaintances at best.
These are the
consequences that come along with a breakup.
We teens hear about love all around us, in music and movies, on TV,
in stories. We hear that love will make us happy. We hear that single people
are lonely. We are told that if we are not part of a couple, we are not
complete. We all want to be part of this thing called 'love'.
Okay, we get a boyfriend or girlfriend, now everything should be
perfect. But, it's not perfect, because life never is. It is easy to become
disappointed. Feelings can change. One person may decide to say good-bye.
When that happens, the one left behind will feel rejected.
Rejection means choosing between one thing and another. The one
who feels rejected...