You feel ready for a new relationship. You love yourself. You have dealt with childhood issues and those from past relationships. You are clear about the reasons for wanting a relationship. You are willing and able to put in the work required for a committed and loving relationship. Now that you know you are ready, how do you find a partner who is the right person for a committed, loving relationship? How do you know he or she is, indeed, the one for you?
If you are in fact ready for a relationship, you should ask yourself the following questions upon meeting someone: "Are you (my potential partner) ready for a committed relationship?"... "Are you the one for me?"... Perhaps more importantly, "Are you not the one for me?"
According to divorce statistics, in over 50 percent of marriages, the answer of one or both partners is: "You are not the one for me."
Hopefully, by making a careful choice up front, you will not become a statistic later on.
In evaluating the questions "Are you the one for me?" or "Are you not the one for me?" it is important to be honest with yourself and your potential partner. Both of you need to know what each wants out of life. Discuss your dreams, goals, lifestyles, hobbies, finances, religious and political beliefs, and desires for having children. Nowadays, many relationships end because partners allow the relationship to further develop without discussing these topics. Truth and honesty are of the utmost importance in relationships. Lies - even subtle deception - cannot provide a solid foundation for a loving, committed relationship.
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