Prior to being married, I never considered how important it would be to know only one man. I was not concerned about the baggage I might carry into my marriage from previously failed relationships. I was not worried about putting my future husband at risk for deadly infections and diseases. Abstinence is the key to a stronger marriage free from sexually transmitted diseases, early pregnancies, and it is an important step in making God's principals the foundation for your marriage.
By choosing to save intercourse for marriage, you will never consider adoption, abortion, or have to narrow down a list of partners who might have given you HIV. Pinned on the wall of my gynecologist office is a sign that reads, "Seventy-percent of all juveniles in state reform institutions come from fatherless homes." Abstinence is effective at preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Imagine how special it would be to only have intimate knowledge of the man or woman you marry.
I believe in my heart that carnal knowledge and memories of another can encourage unfaithfulness during challenging times. Perspective can be everything, and when you are weak, Satan will attack your flesh by bringing back memories from a less complicated and more intoxicating time in your life.
In addition, by postponing intercourse until after marriage, you will have an opportunity to develop a stronger relationship to build your marriage on. Without sex, couples tend to do more talking. Developing solid communication techniques at an early stage will serve you later when decisions need to be made or times are tough. This will give you an opportunity to build a friendship, which will be the foundation for trust and respect.
Lastly, this is not an option; it is Gods plan for us. Wouldn't you like...