Essay by BrOxATL02University, Bachelor'sA+, December 2004

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What a crazy world we seem to be living in today. In a world where people are killed, hated, and discriminated against on a daily basis, its amazing that some people can actually get along. Although discouraged at times by things such as failed marriages, abusive couples, and superficial friendships, the majority of the world's population still has the internal desire to be connected to someone and to enjoy a long, successful relationship. The question is, what is it that makes a relationship successful? What does it take to be involved with someone in a meaning way? After numerous attempts at finding that perfect relationship, I have discovered that understanding yourself, knowing what you and your significant other want, and your own willingness to change, are key factors in determining the longevity of your relationship.

Being single, we seem to think that we know everything about ourselves. When you're alone, you learn to live with yourself, and it isn't until you get into a relationship that you actually learn to acknowledge the flaws that exist in each and every one of us.

Think of Freud and compare yourself to his iceberg model of the id, ego, and superego. When you present yourself to someone, they see the small tip of the iceberg above the surface of the water, but what lies beneath are the things that make up who you are. These are the things that your significant other will see once you get into a relationship. Putting up a false image of yourself isn't going to work forever. When you do get involved in a relationship, both sides act like a mirror. As you fall in love, you reflect the things that you like in each other, but at the same time you reflect the bad. Although its...