Recently I saw a movie in which the main characters were two brothers named Anton and Mark. Both of them were raised with the same values by the same Yiddish parents and shared the same bedroom through their childhood. By my expectations they were supoistu be similar to each other in most ways, but it was not the case. Their personalities, goals, professions (careers), and social outlooks were broadly different. I personally felt closer to Anton because of his personality, goals, professions (careers), and social outlooks. He became a perfect example for my own actins. Now, whenever I encounter difficult situation, I ask my self "What, Anton would do and who he would react?" Their personalities were totally different. Anton was romantic, sentimental, responsible, and emotional optimist but Mark was embodied and incarnated pragmatist that cared only about his own welfare. The examples of that were their marriages (relationships) Anton adored his wife's beauty and respected her individuality.
He did not loose attraction to her (even) when she gained wait after childbirth. He had disagreements with his wife, but he always tried make their marriage work and to solve the problems. Fresh flowers were always in their house. He had bought one purple rouse every single day on a way from work. Mark's, marriage was also a result of mutual love, but later his attraction to his wife disappeared. He saw that there were other women with a batter look and figure, younger and prettier. After a few years he wanted to get a divorce but understood that it would mean that he was going to lose one half of what he had. His house, money, and stocks would be divided. Because his wife was not working, he thought that whatever they had belonged to him. The next day after the divorce Mark had a new girlfriend. He did give a lot of thoughts about his kids that were needed their father by them. He was careless and self centered whereas Anton was willing to do anything to keep his family. I think that marriage requires responsibilities and people should do everything to make it work at list for their children. Men should not compare other women with their wives. They both were willing to favor others but for entirely different reasons. Mark's ideology was to extend (lend) a hand of assistance but as he did he would ask for return with two crawly hands. I would call Anthon-the better person, he did not need a return, the plain thanks made him happy.
I prefer Anton better then Mark because of his goals and the pathways (sidesteps) he takes to he takes to "find" himself. At the begining Mark was shown more certain in his goals than Anton. He knew what he wanted to accomplish and that was to pay off his house as fast as he could and build a substantial amount of money in order to open up his own business. Mark was a chef and had been working for the same restaurant for many years. He hates what he did but kept the job because of the cash flow. He worked seven days a week and had not taken vacation for more then three years. He was eksousted and frustrated. He referred to (about) his customers as pigs that were too lazy to cook themselves. I heard long ago that the food should be prepared with love and care, other ways it just a waist. Anton differs from Mark. He does not know exactly what he wants as Mark usually does. He has changed jobs like doctors changes gloves. He wants to "find himself" and has worked at a variety of jobs. He has been a jeweler and a construction worker. He has loaded cargo airplanes and has driven a tractor-trailer. He was a waiter and a warehouse worker. He uses the method of trial and error and I think it is a good strategy. I believe that every one should find their place in this world.
At a certain point in time, the brothers decided to leave their homeland. Anton in his pursuit to "find himself" immigrated to America, the land of freedom and opportunity. But Mark, the pragmatist, immigrated to Israel, the Jewish State. Anton, wanting to build for the future, enrolled in a local college, determined to become a computer engineer, and one day a researcher in robotics and advanced technologies. Mark, on the other hand, knew exactly what he wanted. He landed a job as a chef right away. His practical goal for making money became a reality.
Mark is an outgoing party animal who loves to meet people, especially women. He is very attracted to people and them to him. As long as he does not have to spend too much money, he can have fun anywhere. On the other hand, Anton is an ambivert. Sometimes he likes to think in solitude, keeping his thoughts to himself. He does not party a lot, but likes to experience quality time with others. He spends money freely in the process.
Although both brothers are pursuing their goals in very different ways and in different countries, they still have the same bond of love for each other and for their parents. The two little boys who shared the same room for seventeen years and received love and upbringings from their parents, turned out very different. Their marriages, careers, emigrations, and social outlooks resulted in totally diverse pathways in life.