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When I asked my friends of a personal trait that best suits me, I received the same response from them all. The overwhelming feeling shared by each individual person showed how I looked in there eyes. Each person, as different as they were had said that I am "too nice." This trait does not seem to me as large of an issue as my friends think that it is.

Although they say I am "too nice," I feel that I am not "nice," just pleasant. I do not understand how a person can be "too nice." I never found it a burden on anyone's personality to be nice. Of course being nice has its advantages and it's disadvantages, as do any other personality traits that a person would have. For example, a person could be vulgar and uncouth. Many people find this kind of behavior offensive of course, but some may find it relieving that a person could be so honest to how they feel by not holding back.

In the matter of me being too nice, I have found that through high school and my time in college I always have been seen as the "nice guy." Everyone has always seen me as the nice guy. Sometimes it is aggravating to be called that but I rather have that than some other name with a negative connotation. Some friends have introduced me to there friends as "Alex the nice guy," which totally limits me in the very beginning of our relationship.

It is true that I do care for most other people's feelings and ideas. I just try to be the best "person" that I can be, not by religion or by influence, but that is just how most Pisces are. I cannot help it; it is just how we are. That may not be the real reason, but I do not know where I get it from.

Being known as such a nice person also has its disadvantages on the dating scene also. I have no clue why it is, but most woman want the "nice guy" as just a friend for a shoulder to cry on or the friend that they can tell there most deepest and darkest secrets too. Sometimes I really ask myself "why do they do that?" Who knows the real reason, every woman has a different reason for why they do. Sometimes I think that it would be easier to be a jerk, but it is not in my nature.

Being nice is not always all disadvantages. It does have its advantages like I said. I have met the most interesting people that have enhanced my life just by being courteous to them and respecting there ideas. I could not imagine living my life without their insights and friendship on a daily basis.

People do trust me with their greatest possessions and secrets more quickly than others. More often than not, total strangers that I have met for no more than an hour if not less have told me secrets that they have not even shared to their closest friends. The strange part in this is that they are more than willing to tell me their secrets with no instigation from me or from anyone else. At the very least I have dirt on countless amounts of people.

I do think that the pros outweigh the cons in this manner and I am proud to hold the name of "the nice guy." I much rather be nice and patient to people than rude and impetuous. Although it is hard for me to be rude to someone bothering me, I can always make him or her smile. I think that this accomplishment is harder to bring about than a clash. It also makes me feel better about myself knowing that I have one more friend than an enemy. Some may think not being able to "tell someone off" in a heart beat is a weakness, but being able to give them something to smile about is a much better way of being remembered.