What Do You Expect?
When I think about what love means, it only brings about confusion. Love is the most abstract of all our emotions. There are so many different types of love, so many different ways to feel love, so many different ways to give love. That really makes it hard for me to make any concrete statements about it. For one thing, if I were to focus on one aspect of love, it would not be enough. One really has to take this subject on from every angle in order to illustrate the full picture. I can only try my best to merely scratch the surface. The story I will be focusing on as I try to delve into this subject is Raymond Carver's "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love." In this story, there were many different ideas and opinions being expressed, all of which are relevant and worth exploring.
My philosophies on a lot of things have changed over the past couple years. As I see it now, love is what you make it and what you want it to be. I think that preconceptions about love are the reason for most conflicts in relationships. Love is all about your expectations.
A tough question to answer first of all is what kind of love could almost anyone see, and agree on, as true love? Is there a universal true love? Love is different for every person. One way of looking at it is that love between two people is each person's single and individual perception that they are in love. So all it takes for someone to be in love is for them to believe it. It's like believing in God. Or even the air we breathe. You may not see...