Kenyatta Martin
03/18/2014
Eng. 119
First Draft
Dysfunction in the Black Community
In the story "Girl", the author is trying to teach her daughter how to become a lady and
how to be a wife. In today's society, the story doesn't really apply because; the mother-daughter
dynamic has changed. Some mothers are no longer installing morals and values into their
daughters. In some cases the mother is trying to be young and try to fit in with in so, they follow
after their daughters. Although we still have some mothers that are teaching their girls how to
become a lady, they're not teaching them how to be a wife.
Black woman have become so dependent of themselves because, there's no "good" men
around so, they don't teach their daughters to aspire to marriage. We live in an under fathered
over mothered society, which causes society to become over nurtured and underdeveloped.
This
explains the surge of over femininity and under masculinity in our society today.
The black male and female dynamic is very dysfunctional mainly because, there are
really no positive models around to teach those under them, this is how this is supposed to be
done or you don't suppose to do this and this is why. Another reason is because, our society is
Patriarchy. There are no father figures around and mothers are left to raise their sons and the
daughters don't have an example of how a man is supposed to treat her. That's why women have
become so dependent of themselves and men have become dependent of women. It all goes back
to slavery when they took men out of the household and we have yet to go back to how it used to
be.
There are a lot of black men that are torn down,