"Forgive and Forget, What are the difficulties in doing this.

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Many of us can think of someone who has hurt us badly. How difficult it can be for us to forgive that person. Even if we avoid seeking revenge, we may hold on to a grudge. Our society doesn't encourage forgiveness. On the contrary, when we are hurt we are told: "Don't get angry; get even!" The plots of many popular dramas focus on "sweet revenge." Yet we know that it is right to forgive and forget. Everybody remembers Mother Teresa's famous quote, "It is by forgiving that one is forgiven". Since we all know that friendship flourishes at the fountain of forgiveness, why is it still so difficult to forgive and forget? Here are a few of the barriers that might stop us from forgiving others.

The most basic reason for our unwillingness to forgive others lies in the fact that forgiving seems unfair to the forgiver. The culprit seems to have gotten away too easily and this is definitely not in line with the calculative nature of Man.

A famous person once said, "Do not expect to be applauded for what you do right, and do not expect to be forgiven for what you do wrong." This reflects the mindset of most people. They tend to think that since they will not be forgiven if they commit the same mistake, then neither should the wrongdoer.

Another more personal reason is that faults are thick where love is thin. If the person who did wrong is your enemy, or even someone whom you dislike, then there is a greater tendency to find fault with that person. This is further worsened by the fact that love will find a way, while indifference will find an excuse. If someone you like, for example, your good friend, does something wrong, then you...