What makes a family work? And What are the things that breaks them apart?

Essay by dre_Junior High, 8th gradeA+, July 2006

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All sorts of problems and disasters can suddenly happen in a family life. What these problems are and when they occur differs from every family. All families undertake many stages of development. Families all start with the parents and the children, whether they're in the same house or not. As children get older they begin school, then teenagers, beginning to became more independent and finally spreading their wings and leaving home to make their own future and lives.

In the middle of all these, family conflicts can suddenly spring up: A growing child might develop their own beliefs and values, which then can clash with the beliefs held by their parents, E.g. A growing child might want to be a sport athlete, this is met with resistance from the parents, who wants their child to get a career that would profit the child even in his/hers late ages (an accountant, lawyer, or doctor for examples).

The children demands more independence than their parents are prepared to allow, more older teens also don't bend to their parents' wishes as simple as younger youths, but more expectedly stand their ground. A child's emotional and physical changes through puberty can worry/confused their parents. Families that don't function well also have their flaws, such as lack of respect for each other, not listening/talking to each other, use of physical violence to prove one's point or as their main form of disciplinary. More, they have trouble with agreeing to something, always refusing to recognize others' point of view and the habit to use unhelpful manners of communicating to other members thru yelling, swearing, and criticizing. The catalog of breakdowns continues: school learning problems, bullying, loss of trust and respect for adults, disputes with other family members, lack of affection and feeling from the parents...