Parenting

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hapter 12: Families launching young adults.

1. The significance of periodic visits for the parents is to see how their child is changing.

2.The launching state may extend over a considerable period of time. The young child may leave home as a young adult and never come back.

3The original married pair will take on new roles like grandfather, father in-law or grandmother mother or mother in-law.

4.The launching state is marked by the simultaneous release of the family's children and addition of the new members by marriage.

5.The major family goal is the reorganization of the family into a continuous unity while releasing matures and maturing young people into lives of their own.

6.The concerns are that there will be less college entrance competition, a possible easing of unemployment for young adults and a lessening of a youth culture phenomenon.

7. When you are a child, you are a person who lives within the expectations of age and grade.

As a young adult, he/she emerges from the norms of the age/grade system.

8.Establishing one's autonomy means attaining a sense of who one is and what one is to do with one's life.

To accomplish this it requires time and reflection and the clarification of one's own sense.

9. Reason to postpone marriage are most women are going to college, an excess of women marriageable, a sharp increase in women's employment, expanding roles to women outside the home and the revival of the women's movement.

10. The interest in life planning and the ability to plan one's life are a predictable function of social classes. The higher the level, the greater the interest and ability to plan.

11. Upwardly mobile families tend wither to carry their children along with them or encourage their young people to climb.

12.A greatly admired older adult may serve as a role model for the emerging young adult. Parents usually encourage a child whose plans conform to family tradition, so the young adult's progress is eased along the way.

13.Mis-fits usually turn to drugs or cults to ease their pain, these people are often discourage to make few life plans.

14. More men and women are going to college because they want to enhance their learning power, want to learn about more things, get an education, and meet new people.

15 Students often finance their college costs by summer jobs ,part time jobs, student loans, grants scholarships and savings.

16.Exceptations for young men have changed because young adults today have more vocational possibilities than were formerly available.

18.The specific aids in choosing a career are conational guidance, testing and conuncisekub programs designed to clarify young adult interests, aptitude and career goals, pat time jobs, summer employment and apprentice like opportunities giving brief experience in various types of work without final commitment and concentrated career programs in which young adults interview and observe established adults in a variety of fields.

19.love is usually a requisite for close friendship, lasting intimacy and marriage. But feeling are hard to evaluate during the young adult years because they tend to be confuse and intertwined with maturing sex drives.

20. The question of sexual involvement being in the early teens and continues throughout adulthood. It centres in the way a person views sexuality.

21.Two important things are that each individual learns in the family or orientatiation are to love and to wait.

22.The concepts are both negative and positive, generally both sexes of students see living together as immoral, immature, irresponsible and insecure in contrast to the more sexually conservatives students.

23.Progressive involvement of couples are able to trace the process of pair formation through dating and courtship in a series of steps that lead to marriage.

24. Friend and families involve them selves by pushing promising pairs together when they invite the two, as a couple to social events, family meals, and trips; assume that the pair will come together; comment on what a nice part the two make together and tell them that they are made for each other.

25. Communication differs because , communication develops thought out the relationship. So marriage bound pair are more able to discuss and manage possible conflicts then are couples at earlier stages of courtship.

26. Homogamy: The tendency of marriage partners to have similar characteristics.

Racial endogamy: Divides possible marriage partners into pools of one's own racial groups, the tendency being for an individual to choose a mate within his or her own race.

27. Engagement rituals contribute to the success of the engagement. Many engaged pairs share the ritual s of their respective families as a way of giving a sense of belonging to both families and as a way of selecting those common rituals that they both enjoy and want to continue in their own family to be. Some engagement rituals are orientated towards the future, anticipating and preparing for the couple's marriage and family life.

28. The three crucial tasks that need to be accomplished are: Establish themselves as a pair-in their own eyes and eyes of both families and their mutual friends. Secondly, they must have worked through intimate systems of communication that allows for exchange of condience , an increasing degree of empathy and the consequent ability to predict each other's responses and lastly, they must plan specifically for the marriage that lies ahead, both in practical matter and in the realm of values.

29. People today are marrying later in life because there are probably completing their education and have some work experience before settling down with some body for the rest of their lives.

30. The cost to marry can vary depending on the type, location and size the wedding.

31. The family takes on the role of assisting the young adult to become successfully autonomous but also maintaining a home base in which the other members of the family can thrive.

32.These years are the accordion years of families life. The young adults room lies empty through the college year, or while he/she is away for service, only to suddenly come alive during a holiday or a leave.

33 Meeting the expenses of launching is accomplished by working over time or getting a second job, also many families loan, or borrow on life insurance, increase the mortgage on their home or tighten its belt wherever it can to meet current prospective costs.

34.It is accomplished when the parents can sit back and let their children run the house and their own affairs. Older sons and daughter thrive on accepting real responsibilities when they fell they are on their own.

35. Young adult s can assume a mature role in encourage his or her mother to retool for work at the level of her potential, take new interest in her appearance and join with her in a health program of mutually beneficial diet and exercise.

36. Some common pitfalls or fears are that's their child are in a dangerous position, and that some how they might have done a better job in raising their children.

37.The purpose of revitalizing a marriage is so that the husband and wife can now focus on each other for nurturance, companionship and support, rather then focusing their attention of their home and attending their children's needs.

38.The importance of communication between a married couple contributes to happiness in marriage then any other factor. Also, being able to communicate and get through to one other are especially important during the launching stage.

39.When parents have difficultly freeing their young adult children to live their own lives, communication between the generations in the family is especially difficult.

40.Families can cope with peer pressure by having a solid relationship with each other and "proving time" when the young adult feel that whatever happens their family is behind them.

41. A refilled nest is cause when previous trauma sends previously launched young adults back to their parents home, sometimes with their children all their worldly good. Succeeds refilled nests seem to be those with plenty of space and good communication established over the years.

42.The unlaunchable young are still another phenomenon that delays the accomplishment of this family development task. Handicapped sons or daughter many liger on in their family of orientation until they can be rehabilitated for independent living or they may stay on indefinitely.

43. Widening the family circle being with the first marriage of a son or daughter. The extended family now includes both the new family unit being established with more or less interact the family or the son or daughter in law.

45. You often get in-law trouble if the family is too close.

46.Area of concern include outside in the form of in-laws, relative, guests, neighbours, community pressure and impinging world stresses.

47.Social heirs: Member of the young generation want to establish their own values in line with the changing world around them, so they stress the differences between themselves and their elders.

Generation Stake: The tendency for the older generation to view parent child relations more favorly then the younger.