Reasons Why We Marry
Marriage and Family
Reasons Why We Marry
Marriage is one of, if not, the most important decisions in anyone's life. Your marriage can and will have an effect on your whole life. This effect could be positive, or it could be negative. Consequently, many may ask, "Why do we marry?" To many people the answer may be relatively simple, "I fell in love", or "He/She was everything I've ever wanted." Others may have reasons such as sexual urges, appearing grown up, or being free from parents. People marry for a variety of reasons. Some motives for marriage are more sound and will probably lead to sound marriages. Other motives are not realistic and increase the chances of unfulfilled expectations in marriage. Throughout this paper we will take a look at both positive and negative reasons people marry, and look at my personal life and why I got married.
Some motives for marriage such as appearing grown up, or being freed' of parents' command may lead to things such as dissatisfaction in the relationship. In today's society, many marriages will fail because they think that the marriage will make them into better persons. In my personal experience, marriage is a very powerful thing, however, it cannot change an immature child into an adult, an unhappy person to a happy person, or a lazy person into a hard worker in the relationship.
Another poor reason to marry is to deal with sexual urges that have been stirred up. Just under half of the high school students questioned for the 2001 Youth Risks Behavior Survey said they had ever engaged in sexual intercourse (www. family.org). Marriage provides an acceptable outlet for sexual gratification. But unless there is a solid emotional foundation, a marriage based on sex will be unfulfilling.
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Why is wanting economic security a better reason to marry than sexual gratification? Your essay is great up to the point where you start talking about \"positive\" reasons for marriage. I think your personal experience example doesn\'t add to the quality of the essay; at least you could have mentioned that in some cases there is no disctinct and apparent reason but a deep feeling that this is the right action...
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