American Dating

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In this expository, I will attempt to unravel the everlasting mysteries of the hormonally driven world. Beyond the chemical pheromones that draw males, females, females and females, and males and males together, are several key concepts that I, and I alone, understand on every level. The contemporary style of dating has its flaws and advantages, just like every ideology in existence. Here are just a few.

The modern style of dating consists of basically two stages. One stage is privy to the subject meandering around aimlessly looking for a mate that satisfies some primal physical level. Although cynical, this is as true to life as it gets, and is in fact more truthful than the Shakespearean ideal of falling in love with every organism with ovaries within a twenty mile radius. However, once the lust aspect is satisfied, stage two commences. This phase prompts the subject to seek out the emotional side of his mate.

In this fashion, he has something to keep him busy when he and his partner are not engaged in sexual activity. This non-sexual activity, known as "talking"�, or "intellectual conversation"� being enjoyed by two mates is a rare commodity today indeed. This is one downside to the American dating system: lust is often confused for love, or, in the more common case, is used to replace emotional connection. This practice is sadly becoming more and more prevalent today, and this process makes the increase in sexual undertakings and less personality interaction more acceptable. This is sad, and the main downside to the dating system we know and love today.

The American system of finding a mate is nothing short of flexible, since if one is not satisfied in both columns of the relationship, it is understood, and relatively acceptable, if he moves on. In the old world style of dating, ones marriage was often predetermined since birth if he/she lived in a small town, and he/she was expected to stick this relationship out until the end, regardless of happiness, and only because it was "proper"�. A particular advantage to this method of dating is that it is universally acceptable for one party involved to move on to better things without the family of the others raising all kinds of bloody hell similar to the Hatfields and McCoys. In summation, today's system provides a truly wonderful freedom to experience many different people to decide who is truly the best for you. This technique does include its fair share of heartbreak, but sacrifices of small chunks of ones soul are necessary to perpetuate such an honest system. America has always been about progress, and our dating system has not escaped the changes of the 21st century.