Violence, like charity, often begins at home. The roots and the causes of violent activity in
people's lives frequently lie in their earliest experiences. It is well known that acts of aggression and
assault go from generation to generation, and that dealing with the problems that arise from violent
activities among members of families really means dealing with the familites themselves and
understanding them from generation to generation.
This paper deals wih the violent confrontations that occur in otherwise ordinary appearing
families. Everyone is potentially a victim of someone else's anger, rage, confusion, and fear. It can
start in the earliest days of infancy with mothers who are afraid of children, don't know how to raise
them, feel inadequate to the task and overwhelmed. It continues with parents who don't know how
to control young children, because the children are too active, too energetic, too precocious, or
because the parents allow them to get out of control.
Later, violent activities can occur among
children in the same family. Sometimes psychiatrists refer to this as sibling rivalry. Often it is the
kind of violent action that occurs when an argument gets out of hand and one brother hits another,
or one sister destroys another's property. Ultimately, the violence can extend to the children
themselves, who begin to attak their own parents. All of these kinds of violent activities have
causes and, of course, terrible effects. If we can begin to understand the causes, we can begin to
deal with preventing them. There are ways to change people who engage in attacks on other people.
There are sources of help, understanding, and shelter.
Help is available for people who either find themselves in this situation or see friends or
relatives involved in it. Mental health clinics and family guidance clinics...