The causes of children's difficulties in divorce families

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"Is divorce harmful to children?" While this question may seem like very important question, I would like to suggest that it is time to examine a more important question which is "What are the factors in divorcing families that contributes to children having the difficulties." These children have more difficulty in school, more behavior problems, more problems with peers, and more problems get along with their parent. There are many causes that contribute difficulties for children in divorcing families.

First of all, divorce often results in the loss of a parent for the children, and with this loss children also lose the knowledge, skills and resources of that parent. Mothers and fathers are important resources of the children. They will provide emotional support and practical for their children as well as the role models for their children. (Paul Amato 1993) The research shows that one finding that emphasizes the importance of parents as a resource to children is that children who lose a parent due to death are somewhat similar to children of divorce.

For example, the children grow up learning the ways of love from moms and dads who never embrace, who rarely laugh together, and who fail to demonstrate that arguments can end with compromise and forgiveness. These moms and dads will become role models for bitterness, resignation or both. Sometimes the children in divorce family show more aggressive behavior because they don't have the parents to tell them what s the proper behavior.

Secondly, another result of divorce is that children living in single parent families are less likely to have many economic resources. Research shows that divorced women suffer a drop in income ranging on the average from 30 percent to 70 percent. More than half of all female-headed households with children live in poverty, compared...